LIFE:Angry and bitter posts? Worth the consequences?

by Louie Ross B. Perez


Disclaimer: I'm writing this post not to point out anyone or a specific group of people. This is just a commentary on what's happening to social media in absence of rules and norms.

It has been my habit to check my Facebook everytime I wake up, I eat, I went to a break or taking a ride going home, or even before I sleep. And I wonder why people post things pertaining to a person or a specific group of people with anger and bitterness by their side. They will bash the person's private life, the people around them, their credibility, the educational attainment sometimes even the upbringing. Whatever things they would like to say just to express their disappointment. Sometimes the words are pretty strong to

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So as me being me, I began to think about it. I put myself in a person's situation wherein I am either heartbroken, cheated, backstabbed and all, a sudden rush of emotions will confront me and since social media is so accessible I will find it convenient to express my feelings through my account. I want to share my frustration to people.

But the question is, should the whole world know what we feel? Will all of them care? Can it fight our frustration when we do it? I don't think so. Especially when we're not even sure of what we feel. It will just worsen the situation.

I will be brutally frank about this. When we post not so good and let's say bad comments about other people in Facebook,  I would say it is a sign of us being COWARDS.  Hiding in the protection of the quote "Kung ngreact ka, eh di guilty ka!" ( If you react to my post, then you're guilty of what I'm saying!).  People wanna share their misery to others, as they say, misery loves company. But are we sure that they all care, are we sure that they share the same sentiments with us? Nah, I don't think so. Hundreds of comments on our posts do not assure us of their empathy. True friends who found our quote of anger and bitterness will not like our status, or worst comment on it. They will be the ones to text or call us to ask what we really feel and offer their valuable advise to you. And one of them will be "don't post those things, just talk to me or better yet talk to the person." Here are five facts that I see that will prove that it is not worth it.



5) It will not solve anything. You will just become a part of the problem.

4) It will bounce back, instead of destroying your target's reputation, it will be yours that will be put in trouble.

3) You will have friends. Fake friends.

2) You will destroy relationships.

1) You'll get used it, you'll do it everytime, until no friends will be left for you.

Facebook is a great invention of our generation. It opened a lot of possibilities and opportunities to many people. But it is sad that others abuse it to destroy relationships and the credibility of other people. Guys in the surfing world, let's be responsible of our actions. If we wanna say something, if we want to confirm something, if we want to give feedback or if we are sincere of our relationships...don't post, talk! God gave us eyes to see, the ears to listen, and the mouth to express our feelings. Course it through them, not through our fingers!

EVENTS:Manny Pacquiao on Billboard Top 100???

by Louie Ross B. Perez

Move over Adele, Lady Gaga, Rihanna, Jay-Z, Bruno Mars, Pound for Pound King, Congressman, now a certified chart topper, my idol, Manny Pacquiao is no. 7 in the Billboard Charts in the Secondary Adult Contemporary Chart! His song? Sometimes When We Touch by Dan Hill!

Who would have thought that this donut vendor from Mindanao will the best boxer  in the world, a politician, now a Billboard Artist! Should I say more? Listen to his latest single. The last note is just classic! We're proud of you PACMAN!

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EVENTS: Christopher Lao, a stupid law student? Or a bullying victim?

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Before August 3, Christopher is living a quiet life. Balancing the demands of reviewing for the bar exams and his responsibilities as a husband and a father. But that Wednesday afternoon everything has changed. He was just a motorist who was challenged by the forces of man and nature and unfortunately the actions taken and dialogues uttered didn't actually showcase his better side. Hurrying up to go home for his family, he tried to cross a flooded area and got hopelessly caught in the floodwater. And to add this misfortune, a reporter from GMA 7 is exactly at the same place at the same time to record all that had happened.

“I should have been informed. They should have blocked the road. Did you guys even tell me? Did anyone tell me? It’s like people were waiting for somebody to just do that? Bakit ako? These are the words that came out of his mouth at that particular moment. His rant seems to be unreasonable, incomprehensible and I admit, hilarious. Why would a man like him blame everyone else, the MMDA, traffic enforcers, the people around him, why ask for a notice when everything seems to be obvious?

But if you really come to think of it, his outrage is nothing but ordinary for normal people like us. We rage about our heartbreak, when our supervisors sucks up, when our car broke at the middle of the highway, we say things that we don't mean. We shout, we curse, we punch anything within our reach, we blame people but the difference is that there's no microphone in our mouths and there's no camera that will broadcast our outbursts to the whole nation in our most vulnerable state!

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This could have been a situation that people can show empathy, the reporter could have given him time to compose himself, but the reporter seems to be more concerned in "doing his job" as part of media, than being a concerned human being. He wants to give good television to everyone! And guess what, he succeeded!

Minutes after the broadcast, tweets, blogs, internet posts were all around the internet. Calling him stupid, a guy with no common sense, ridiculing his words and some lunatics even created pages to ridicule Christopher Lao and what's funny is there are a lot of people who liked and still liking the pages. Whaat?????? I hope you readers are not one of them! Because this is now a case of cyberbullying. We are still struggling with the social media phenomenon and because of the absence of norms, it has given way to excesses and abusive use of the platform. This resulted to using the social media to propagate a culture of hate, blame and judging. WE should be careful with our posts, it can damage not only other people, but especially ourselves. It can affect how people perceive us as a person.

Lao already issued a statement, apologizing for his lapse of judgement. But what's good about it is, he has vowed to turn the whole event into a learning experience. I hope from there, we should ask ourselves, was I able to help? Or I became part of the problem? Hopefully everyone including Christopher, GMA7, the cyber bullies, you and I will become better persons after this.

LIFE: The date you never met! What you should and should not do!

by Louie Ross Perez

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There are a lot of single men and women these days that their friends will set them up for a date. Some are skeptic but believe me, there are a lot of happy couples who came from this kind of set up. The friend will send the link to the profile in FB, then you will add him/her, exchange numbers, chat here text there and eventually you will go on a date. So what should you do and should not do on your first date with a person you never met before. Look at my list.

Disclaimer: I'm not a dating expert.=) . But I've come up with this list based on my experiences and of course based on the experiences of my friends. This is also based from books and theories.hehe



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1) SPEAK UP!  No one wants a date who's so quiet and uptight. Yes, your emails, texts, and chats are interesting but please speak up in person. Prepare some questions that can open up a conversation. Ok I'll give you some:

 "Gusto ko yung name mo ah. Ano yung origin nya? Were you named after anyone in particular?
- this can be a bola to your date that you like his/her name. Then I'm sure there's an answer.

"I saw your pictures on Facebook ah, they're good. Nagpunta ka pala sa.....(his/her last trip), how was it?"
- this will show that you're interested in your date that you bothered to check his/her profile. Then you could ask follow questions after.

I will give more of these on my next blog.

2) SHUT UP!  Oh yes, you asked some questions, but after your date spoke for 10 seconds, you would interrupt and say, "Ako rin and alam mo ba..." and have some litany for about 10 to 20 minutes. No one wants a date who's so into themselves. You share a lot of stories about yourself, let them share too. The world is not all about you.

3) You're not BRAD PITT or ANGELINA!  I know some of you are confident by the way you look, but please don't rehearse your walk. Don't practice poses in the mirror. Don't be so overconfident. Like when you're walking towards the table is like you walking in the runway.  Of course no one wants a baduy date but you also don't have to be hunk or a supermodel. It's a cliche, but it's your personality that will get you to the second date.

4) "Hindi lahat NADADAAN sa PERSONALITY! Mag shave ka naman ng facial hair...especially if you're a girl. Make your date feel that you prepared for the occassion. Yes, your smile can look good, but please make sure that you brushed your teeth before. Cut your nails too. And yes, you have the best make up in the world but you're wearing your gym clothes, or your boggy pants. And yes have a new haircut and styled it ala Diether or Echo but you forgot na gupitin ang hair mo sa nose! Please, looking good is a sign of respect to your date.

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I'm sure there's still a lot and I'm so sleepy that I can't list them all down. This last one is not actually what you should or should not do on your first date. This is actually a rule before your friends set you up for a date. But please make sure you don't commit this mistake.

5) "AY SYA BA YUN??? You know what this means? Your profile picture does not look like you!!!!!! With multiple exclamation marks! Please post a realistic picture of yours. Napaanggulo ka lang pinost mo na! Don't pose a once in a lifetime look. Also make sure that your picture is current. Don't post a picture of you in college when you're 20 pounds lighter. Some may not like your physical appearance but I know there's someone out there who will love you just the way you are.  

So there, I hope this helps some of you! Goodluck on your date! Hope you can score a second one!

MOVIE REVIEW:Ang Babae sa Septic Tank - Funny but....

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This movie is about 2 friends, Rainier, the director (Kean) and Bingbong, the producer (JM) who want to make it big in the filmmaking industry and they believe that their latest project entitled "Walang Wala" will bring them to different festivals abroad. And they need a star for their movie, that's when Eugene Domingo comes in as herself. Jocelyn (Cai Cortez) is the silent production assistant who imagines the scenes of the movie according to the concept of each character.

The story revolves on how the different characters want the movie to play out on screen. There are sequences that they play in different approaches but with the exact same plot. They go from silent to musical, then to docu drama, then to mainstream cinema.

Ang Babae...has the full potential for a great film. The plot and the message of the movie "Walang, Wala" affects the audience in such a way that all will be silent when the old caucasian man will be getting the kid. But the comedic scenes overshadowed all those effects in the people. I asked myself, what are they trying to achieve in this film, for people to understand poverty and how it affects people? Or they just want to make people laugh and have a good time while watching? In short, the film lacks a point. They don't know what they're trying to convey. But kudos to their director, he was able to hold the whole thing together for people not to get lost in the story at the same time manage to insert funny scenes that are really entertaining.

I was surprised to see that Kean Cipriano can act. He was good and consistent althroughout the film.  JM de Guzman was also really reliable.They played the roles realistically. They are both good and they have chemistry on screen. Dingdong Dantes and Richard Guttierez (the actors who only use their eyebrows to act) will not win any award over these two. My favorite scene of Rainier and Bingbong is in the car when their shouting and shitting their arrogant colleague. I also like the scene in the coffee shop with the boastful director speaking about him entering the international scene as a filmmaker.

Need I say more about Eugene Domingo. She is really an actress, her timing when delivering the funny lines  is undeniably great. Her commitment to the role is unwavering. The septic tank scene was really funny and she only used her face especially her eyes and the people are just laughing loudly over it. But the best sequence for me in the film is when they visited Eugene in her house to talk about the movie. I can't hear the dialogues anymore because the audiences were just laughing out like there's no tomorrow especially when the acting menu is being played out! That was legit!

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No one can dispute that this movie is really funny and entertaining but some movie fans will ask, what's the point behind the jokes? Is there a solid story to start with? Those are the questions that I can't answer after watching the film. Solid acting and coherent direction saved the whole film entirely.

Still, even if it has flaws, I still recommend all of you to watch this movie. The movie house was full packed during the screening and I was genuinely happy that an indie film like this was supported by Filipinos. Kudos to all the cast and crew of the movie!

Rating: 3 stars



LIFE:The EXES you should not invite at your wedding!

by Louie Ross Perez

Yesterday I wrote about the exes that you can invite to your wedding because of different reasons. As promised, today I will write about the exes that should not be invited to your big day. It’s really important to take note of this, we don’t want them to ruin our wedding day! Here’s my list:

4) The “OBSESSED EX’! This is the kind of ex who hasn't moved on for years after the separation. He/She is stalking you for the last 3 years, appearing at your dates, texting you as an anonymous person, sending you sweet messages and bad mouthing your current partner. We don’t want them to be at your wedding wearing black instead of white, sobbing loudly while you are walking down the aisle and he/she is eagerly waiting for the moment when the priest will ask “sino ang tumututol sa kasalang to???” 

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 3) The ex that you dumped after he/she did everything for you! Others call them the “BITTER OCAMPOS!” This is the ex that will most likely take revenge. He/She will appear at your wedding with one aim in mind! Make a scene! Show all the people that he/she is better without you. This ex will most probably wear the best gown or the best suit that will definitely outshine your partner.  He/She will bring the richest and the handsomest or the most beautiful partner to introduce to all your common friends! They will complain about the food, make unsolicited comments on the gown, the cake and all. They will be so annoying!

2) I will go on circles now and will say, don’t invite your ex who dumped you! This will bring back a lot of bitter memories. The lines you uttered during the break up will suddenly linger in your mind and your break up song will play into your ears. We don’t want that to happen! Please eliminate them in your list before the “you made me stronger by breaking my heart” song plays in the air!

(You've made me stronger by Regine Velasquez via you tube)

And finally, the one ex you should not invite to your wedding….please don’t.

This is the person you put all your heart into, was the apple of your eye, the love of your life….otherwise known as “THE ONE WHO GOT AWAY”. Your friends who know your story will look at him/her with awkwardness in their faces. You will have the most uncomfortable beso beso in your life. You can’t help but look at him/her before you say I do. And the worst thing that can happen is before you say “I do”, he/she will leave the church because he/she cannot stand the situation. This is really difficult so please, don’t send the invitation. Unless you want to ride a horse and pull off a Julia's thing,  be the "runaway bride or groom".

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Well, there you go. That’s my list for now. But before I leave, some of the readers asked me one question. What if I’m the ex and I’m invited at the wedding of my ex, would I decide to go? My answer is it depends on the ex. I’ll definitely attend my exes’ wedding if we don’t have much of an emotional attachment and we became really good friends after.  But, if she was the one who dumped me, I’ll be the ex who will wear the best suit, arrive in a limo and bring Megan Fox as my girlfriend.  =)

But if she’s “the one that got away”, I would think more than twice. I’m the type of guy who will love someone with all my heart and it will be so hard for me to see the one that I loved for a long time getting married with someone else. So, I won't.



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Before I end this post, I conducted a small survey earlier in the office, to those who have read  my blog and this is their answer to the question “If you were the ex and you’re invited, will you attend?” I also included my comments to their answers. Peace to all!

This guy is really formal, private and self confessed suplado:

I’m friends with all my exes so I don’t think I will have problems attending their wedding. (He has 2 and I believe that exes who became regular friends didn’t have that big emotional attachment when they were together, hehe)

A hopeless romantic girl who’s been single for 3 years:

I won’t attend any of my exes wedding! Especially to those who dumped me! If they will invite me, I would say I’m already booked on that day or I already have a ticket for an international trip. (Well, let her be, hehe)

My officemate who is engaged to a rich man and a former beauty queen answered:

“ Yes of course. If I have already moved on and have the best guy with me, I will attend with the best gown, best body and best make up on that day. But in my wedding, I will definitely not invite the biggest frog in my life. I won’t give the exact name but the first letter of his first name is C.” (pinagpalit sya with someone na sobrang kaiba sa knya but has a lot of similarities with his ex..hmm….)

Till my next blog folks! See you!

LIFE: Should you invite your ex to your wedding???

by Louie Ross Perez 



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 I don't know what's with 2011 but there are a lot of couples who got engaged and will be married if not this year, next year. Preparations for the event are happening as early as now and one of them is enlisting the people that they will invite in their big day. And one of the questions is "should I invite him/her?" "He or she has been a part of my life and I think I should give an invitation". Oh well, before making any decision, please see some of my answers to this question "Should I invite my ex?"  

Who are the exes you should invite?

3) If he or she is the ex who has already moved on from your relationship but still can't seem to find his/her own partner. Wedding is a buffet, let your exes enjoy the food! Maybe they can find their favorite and get an invitation months after. Well it can be a wedding, but it can also be just a baptism!

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2) Invite your ex whom you met in the dark. What I mean is, they are your exes whom you met in the darkest time in your life or worse you were intoxicated at that time that you didn't seem to care how he or she looks like. It can boost the confidence of your partner that they look better than your ex and make them glow in your wedding. But please make sure that your current partner look way better, because if not they might treat each other as competition!

And finally and this is really important and beneficial.

 

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1) The ex that you went out with for a short period of time but have different talents that you can use in your wedding. If he/she is into public speaking, invite him/her as a host. If they're into music, make them your wedding singer or the piano player.  Into arts, they can design your invitation or your outfit. Into baking, order your cake from them.  And you can hit the jackpot if he/she is a wedding organizer! If it's possible, make them part of the entourage to give you bigger discounts or better yet charge you for FREE!

Tomorrow I will write who are the exes you SHOULDN'T invite. Wait for that before you send the invitations, it's dangerous! Who knows, it can make or break your wedding.=)

Do you agree or disagree?