LIFE:Angry and bitter posts? Worth the consequences?

by Louie Ross B. Perez


Disclaimer: I'm writing this post not to point out anyone or a specific group of people. This is just a commentary on what's happening to social media in absence of rules and norms.

It has been my habit to check my Facebook everytime I wake up, I eat, I went to a break or taking a ride going home, or even before I sleep. And I wonder why people post things pertaining to a person or a specific group of people with anger and bitterness by their side. They will bash the person's private life, the people around them, their credibility, the educational attainment sometimes even the upbringing. Whatever things they would like to say just to express their disappointment. Sometimes the words are pretty strong to

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So as me being me, I began to think about it. I put myself in a person's situation wherein I am either heartbroken, cheated, backstabbed and all, a sudden rush of emotions will confront me and since social media is so accessible I will find it convenient to express my feelings through my account. I want to share my frustration to people.

But the question is, should the whole world know what we feel? Will all of them care? Can it fight our frustration when we do it? I don't think so. Especially when we're not even sure of what we feel. It will just worsen the situation.

I will be brutally frank about this. When we post not so good and let's say bad comments about other people in Facebook,  I would say it is a sign of us being COWARDS.  Hiding in the protection of the quote "Kung ngreact ka, eh di guilty ka!" ( If you react to my post, then you're guilty of what I'm saying!).  People wanna share their misery to others, as they say, misery loves company. But are we sure that they all care, are we sure that they share the same sentiments with us? Nah, I don't think so. Hundreds of comments on our posts do not assure us of their empathy. True friends who found our quote of anger and bitterness will not like our status, or worst comment on it. They will be the ones to text or call us to ask what we really feel and offer their valuable advise to you. And one of them will be "don't post those things, just talk to me or better yet talk to the person." Here are five facts that I see that will prove that it is not worth it.



5) It will not solve anything. You will just become a part of the problem.

4) It will bounce back, instead of destroying your target's reputation, it will be yours that will be put in trouble.

3) You will have friends. Fake friends.

2) You will destroy relationships.

1) You'll get used it, you'll do it everytime, until no friends will be left for you.

Facebook is a great invention of our generation. It opened a lot of possibilities and opportunities to many people. But it is sad that others abuse it to destroy relationships and the credibility of other people. Guys in the surfing world, let's be responsible of our actions. If we wanna say something, if we want to confirm something, if we want to give feedback or if we are sincere of our relationships...don't post, talk! God gave us eyes to see, the ears to listen, and the mouth to express our feelings. Course it through them, not through our fingers!

EVENTS:Manny Pacquiao on Billboard Top 100???

by Louie Ross B. Perez

Move over Adele, Lady Gaga, Rihanna, Jay-Z, Bruno Mars, Pound for Pound King, Congressman, now a certified chart topper, my idol, Manny Pacquiao is no. 7 in the Billboard Charts in the Secondary Adult Contemporary Chart! His song? Sometimes When We Touch by Dan Hill!

Who would have thought that this donut vendor from Mindanao will the best boxer  in the world, a politician, now a Billboard Artist! Should I say more? Listen to his latest single. The last note is just classic! We're proud of you PACMAN!

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EVENTS: Christopher Lao, a stupid law student? Or a bullying victim?

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Before August 3, Christopher is living a quiet life. Balancing the demands of reviewing for the bar exams and his responsibilities as a husband and a father. But that Wednesday afternoon everything has changed. He was just a motorist who was challenged by the forces of man and nature and unfortunately the actions taken and dialogues uttered didn't actually showcase his better side. Hurrying up to go home for his family, he tried to cross a flooded area and got hopelessly caught in the floodwater. And to add this misfortune, a reporter from GMA 7 is exactly at the same place at the same time to record all that had happened.

“I should have been informed. They should have blocked the road. Did you guys even tell me? Did anyone tell me? It’s like people were waiting for somebody to just do that? Bakit ako? These are the words that came out of his mouth at that particular moment. His rant seems to be unreasonable, incomprehensible and I admit, hilarious. Why would a man like him blame everyone else, the MMDA, traffic enforcers, the people around him, why ask for a notice when everything seems to be obvious?

But if you really come to think of it, his outrage is nothing but ordinary for normal people like us. We rage about our heartbreak, when our supervisors sucks up, when our car broke at the middle of the highway, we say things that we don't mean. We shout, we curse, we punch anything within our reach, we blame people but the difference is that there's no microphone in our mouths and there's no camera that will broadcast our outbursts to the whole nation in our most vulnerable state!

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This could have been a situation that people can show empathy, the reporter could have given him time to compose himself, but the reporter seems to be more concerned in "doing his job" as part of media, than being a concerned human being. He wants to give good television to everyone! And guess what, he succeeded!

Minutes after the broadcast, tweets, blogs, internet posts were all around the internet. Calling him stupid, a guy with no common sense, ridiculing his words and some lunatics even created pages to ridicule Christopher Lao and what's funny is there are a lot of people who liked and still liking the pages. Whaat?????? I hope you readers are not one of them! Because this is now a case of cyberbullying. We are still struggling with the social media phenomenon and because of the absence of norms, it has given way to excesses and abusive use of the platform. This resulted to using the social media to propagate a culture of hate, blame and judging. WE should be careful with our posts, it can damage not only other people, but especially ourselves. It can affect how people perceive us as a person.

Lao already issued a statement, apologizing for his lapse of judgement. But what's good about it is, he has vowed to turn the whole event into a learning experience. I hope from there, we should ask ourselves, was I able to help? Or I became part of the problem? Hopefully everyone including Christopher, GMA7, the cyber bullies, you and I will become better persons after this.